Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (Part 1).

Credits to Zu and Mei for the nice pose.
Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus, is one of the most popular and practical communication guides and it was written by John Gray, a famous marriage counselor and seminar leader in it. He talks about how a typical man and woman differ from each other in various ways. He concludes that men and women can develop more satisfying relationships with each other - and especially with their partners - by acknowledging their differences.

Men are presented as powerful creature who they value power, competency, efficiency, and achievements most. They are also defined as a man kind, who have their own ability to achieve certain things. For a man to feel good and proud of himself, he has to achieve his goals. Men are more likely to be interested in “objects” than “love” – such as cars, and hunting games – because they feel that it is a way for them to display on their achievements.

Men often have the attitude of, “Why bother others when I can do it myself?” Their reason: men believe they can handle their problems by themselves, so they rarely talk to others about them. But when someone requires help against them, they will instantly put on their "Mr. Fix-it cap", listen for awhile, then offer their jewel-liked advices. This is the main reason men instinctively offer solutions when a woman complains about her day: men mistakenly think that a woman needs solutions. This is the way he expresses his love; he wants to help her feel better, to show his love, practically, to be useful to her - he wants to solve a woman's problems for her. He often presumes that when people offer him unsolicited advice, they are actually implying that he is useless or he doesn’t know how to handle a particular situation.


"Learn to compromise,

accept the differences between each other."

Its just Part 1, to be continued...

(Stay tune! ^.^)

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